Hey, i wasn't born a parent. I don't have a Degree in parenting. I'm learning how to be a parent from the Fantastic Four as they grow..
Got a call from my sister reporting about my son's aggressiveness one day. (how inappropriate to call me while i'm at work to report about him.. can't she at least wait till i get home.. how insensitive..and of course it upsets me that whole day).
1) Moe broke her daughter's pink hairband.
2) Moe spilled air sirap on her table (according to her he did it on purpose).
3) Moe threw her son's books all over his room.
4) Moe not even scared of the 'cane'!
"You better do something about that boy! sit him down and give it to him good!" she said.
I couldn't even reply her. She caught me by surprise.
Came home that evening, got bombarded by my mum pulak. Basically the same thing what my sis said about Moe. That he's getting out of control. Better do something about that boy before its too late.
I could only tell her that it's normal for this stage. he's just being a boy..its normal to be naughty. She shot back at me -- "He's not just being naughty! he's disruptive! he should be sent to a uniformed school!" i think she meant like a military school or something.. Mummy he's not even 5!!!!
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After i received the call from sis, told the Daddy to handle him. Daddy took him out to do some errands with him. Daddy said, Moe's bored. Come home from school with nothing to do. All the sisters at school.. all the adults busy doing their own thing. He's left on his own..
Boys are from Mars, Girls are from Venus. I've never had experience with little martians. My girls didn't give me any problems while growing up.. nothing that i couldn't handle.. i used myself as a reference. how my mum handled me. but boys..??
My sis has her own style of parenting her boy.. which i don't really agree.. My mom has a boy but he's special so i don't really get to learn anything from her.
I think my little martians at home just need more quality time and attention. So we took last weekend off from the Cafe and went outing to Aquaria & KLCC Park. Aquaria is Moe's happy place. he just love the underwater world.. and Umar have never been outside PJ. His life was always Langat - PJ, PJ - Langat. So Umar had a whale of a time too..
we spent like 45 minutes at this spot. Just looking through the glass window.
... while Umar is recharging.
Daddy giving some underwater lesson.
Thanks for Babycentre.com . It guided me a lot on parenting . Answers most of my questions.
Why preschoolers get aggressive
There you are, watching your little angel through the window at preschool, thinking how blessed you are to have her. All of a sudden, she draws back her little hand – and whacks another child squarely on the nose. As shocking as it may be to you, aggression is a normal part of a child's development. Lots of children this age grab toys from classmates, hit, kick or scream themselves blue in the face from time to time. Sometimes the cause is a simple case of fear: your child might lash out if she feels cornered by another child, for instance. Other triggers may have more to do with frustration. After all, your child is learning a lot of new skills, from using scissors to speaking in complex sentences. She can easily become frustrated with everything she's trying to learn and end up pouncing on a playmate. If she's going to preschool for the first time, she's also getting used to being away from home. If she feels resentful or neglected on top of everything else, she might just retaliate by shoving the child who won't get out of her way. Sometimes, your little one is simply tired and hungry. She doesn't quite know what to do about it, so she responds by biting, hitting or throwing a tantrum. The good news is your child will eventually grow out of her aggressive behaviour as she discovers how to use words instead of fists and feet to solve her problems. The key is helping her realise – sooner rather than later – that she'll get better results from talking than she will from pulling a friend's hair. So there, i just need to have a slow talk with my little martian. he was probably tired and hungry when he did what he did. my kid isn't a monster. he's a good boy with big imagination. he just needed some guidence.. not to be caned or sent to a military school!!
